A. One of the major reasons newlywed couples find the adjustment to marriage so difficult is that they typically are too idealistic. Premarital relationships are often filled with fantasies and myths, especially the idea that the partner’s undersirable traits will change after the couple is married.

Premarital Fantasies and Marital Realities

She married him because he was such an assertive male;
She divorced him because he was such a domineering husband.

He married her because she was so gentle and petite;
He divorced her because she was so weak and helpless.

She married him because he could provide a good income;
She divorced him because all he did was work.

He married her because she was so attractive all the time;
He divorced her because she spent too much time in front of the mirror.

She married him because he was so romantic and sociable;
She divorced him because he was such a fun-loving playboy.

He married her because she was so quiet and dependent;
He divorced her because she was so boring and clinging.

She married him because he was the life of the party;
She divorced him because he was such a dud at home.

He married her because she was so sociable and talkative;
He divorced her because she could only dicuss trivia.

She married him because he was such a good athlete;
She divorced him because he was either playing or watching sports.

He married her because she was so neat and organized;
He divorced her because she was too compulsive and controlling.